Honey, I'm Embarrassed By What You Do!

I didn't really want to post anything today but this one was just too good not to post :D

I was on the way to work this morning and as always, I'll have the radio turned on to my favourite station which is Light FM. They play quite a bit of cool eighties songs (yes, I think songs from the 80's are cool) seeing as how I'm a child of eighties music.

Every morning before the 9am news, they always have some topic they'd be discussing and open the lines for phone in opinions, criticism or suggestions by their listeners. The topic are varied ranging from some pretty cool ones, some weird ones concerning exam tables to some really stupid ones (in my opinion anyway) that are not worth mentioning.

This mornings topic caught my attention. Let me ask you this question. Would you be embarrassed by what your other half does for a living? And I mean an honest living. Well, there was this lady who called in and was asking for opinions on what to do about her predicament.

You see, her fiancé is working as a delivery man and she's pretty embarrassed by it. She wants to know if he should upgrade his job status and whether she should eventually marry him or not (or something along those lines cos I missed the start of it). She says that her fiancé is a very loving and caring man, is everything she wants in a man, blah, blah, blah and yet she's embarrassed by his status as a delivery man?

Come on woman? He has an honest job and I don't think he lied to you about what he was working as when you guys met cos you wouldn't have got engaged to him if that was the case. You say he loves you very much, is very caring and that he's everything you want him to be and yet, you're embarrassed by what he does, an honest job at that!

Why the heck did you even get engaged to him in the first place then? What? Was he a CEO then? How can you be embarrassed of someone you claim to love just because he's working as a delivery man? Is that really so bad? Does the job really make a difference?

Yes, I understand your concerns that when you get married, have kids, maybe become a stay at home mom and you're worried that maybe his pay cheque based on a delivery man's standards may not be able to give you all you want. I know we can't live on just love alone, money plays an important part in life. That's a reality no one can escape from.

But it's not like he has no job or is some sleazy drug pusher, a pimp, a loan shark or even a politician (LOL!). Now, those you have every right to be embarrassed about, not because he's just a delivery man. And you say you love him. You even got engaged to him.

Yet now you're having second thoughts because you're embarrassed by his job. After all, what would your friends say during your gossip sessions when they all talk about their CEO husbands or fiancé's and you have to talk about your DELIVERY man husband! We don't want that now do we? Oh, the shame! Worse still, imagine how that would go down with the parents. What? I've got a delivery man for a son-in-law? We really can't have that now, can we?

What's even worse, you go on air and ask people's opinions about it even. You know, if I was that fiancé of yours, I'd be even more embarrassed by you and your attitude. If you ask my honest opinion, you don't really love him as much as you say you do. To even be embarrassed of what he does for a living is really shallow.

Give the guy a break, maybe he enjoys doing what he does, maybe it's hard to get a better high paying job (trust me, I'm speaking from experience here), maybe the moon revolves around the earth, whatever but at least he loves you and is honest with you and not embarrassed by what he does.

I know I'm a little bit too emotional about this but it was something I found ridiculous. Come on woman, here's a man who loves you and as you say, even adores you so why are you even embarrassed about what he does? You should be thinking about planning your lives together and not about how embarrassing his lowly job is (as you perceive it).

I really don't know what to say anymore but personally, I think you should break off your engagement with him cos he doesn't deserve the embarrassment you're going to cause for him. After all, you're only 28, so there's still loads of time for you to scout around out there for some manager, director, doctor, rocket scientist or something. And I wish you luck in all your future endeavors.
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