I've often heard loads of people saying that they're working hard now so their kids won't have to work hard and go through what they're going through. They want their kids to have an easy future, not to struggle like them. I see no wrong in that. In fact, I'm doing more or less the exact thing too but I don't entirely want them to have it all easy in the future. I don't entirely want them to have loads of money without having to work and earn it for themselves.
Now, you're probably thinking just what kind of horrid parent I am. Well, maybe you're right. But seriously, aren't kids already having life too easy these days by having all their whims provided for them without having to earn it? A child wants an iPad, they get it. A child wants a cell phone, they get it. A child wants a car, they get it. And all this without having to work and earn the stuff they get. How do you expect them to be self sustainable in the future?
Now, I see this trend as something totally wrong with parents these days. Yes, you love your kids, you want them to have everything. You want the best for them but you're forgetting that you're really not preparing them to face life in the future on their own. You're not going to be around forever to give them what they want. The savings you leave them will not last if they don't appreciate how hard it was for you to earn it for them.
I work hard, sometimes too hard to make sure the family has all their needs fulfilled and to make sure the future is secured. But I don't want the boys thinking that they don't have to work hard when they grow up. I don't want them taking things for granted and not appreciating the things they have. Yes, I could leave them loads of money (which in true fact would be a total of RM10.00 ... hahaha!) but how long would that last if they don't know how to manage it or appreciate how difficult it was for me to get it for them?
Working hard and having to earn every single thing that you have builds character. It builds respect and appreciation for the people and things you have. I see lots of kids these days who have no respect or appreciation for anything with attitudes bordering on arrogance even.
Take my own kids, they're the classic example of children who don't appreciate anything. All the stuff we buy them are destroyed within a matter of months or less. We got them MP3 players and within a month, it got busted and they want a new one. We gave them 3 or was it 4 cell phones and all of it doesn't work anymore. And all they can say is, I need a new cell phone, MP3, player, iPad, etc, etc, etc ...
Well, the wife and me have decided that they're not getting things easy anymore. Yes, we'll provide for them and take care of them and make sure they finish school and all that. But they have to earn everything they want from now on. They have to know things don't just appear magically from nowhere just because they want it. They want an iPad or a new cell phone? Well, they just have to save up for it or maybe volunteer to do chores in the house to earn some extra cash.
It might sound cruel and they'll probably complain that their friends parents got them this iPad, tablet, cell phone or whatever but they'll just have to work for it if they want one. Period! That way, maybe, just maybe they'll start to appreciate things and build character and turn out to be responsible and better adults in the future, god knows we're lacking in that right now!
But seriously folks, you can't blame the kids for this one. This is entirely your fault. By wanting to give them everything and making sure they don't have to work as hard as you have, you're indirectly shielding them from the harsh realities of life and maybe even failure. Remember, you're not going to be around forever and if they're so dependent on you, think how they'll manage without you around to give them all they want.
I've interviewed a lot of work prospects for my office and seriously, almost all of them had to call mommy to ask if the terms I offered were good or not! Seriously, I'm not kidding. I suppose, the terms I offered them required them to work hard and observe late hours and not one of a cushy CEO's position, which is what most kids these days think they're worth. In fact, I think all those kids in college when they graduate expect or even demand a high paying and cushy job just cos they have some paper qualifications from seagull scientific.
I fear for the future generation.